A group of young kids were asked how to decide who to marry and here are the results which are pretty amusing.
1) You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dip coming.
- Alan, age 10
(2) No person really decides before they grow up who they’re going to marry. God decides it all way before, and you get to find out later who you’re stuck with.
- Kristen, age 10
WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE TO GET MARRIED?
(1) Twenty-three is the best age because you know the person FOREVER by then.
- Camille, age 10
(2) No age is good to get married at. You got to be a fool to get married.
- Freddie, age 6 (very wise for his age)
HOW CAN A STRANGER TELL IF TWO PEOPLE ARE MARRIED?
(1) You might have to guess, based on whether they seem to be yelling at the same kids.
- Derrick, age 8
WHAT DO YOU THINK YOUR MOM AND DAD HAVE IN COMMON?
(1) Both don’t want any more kids.
- Lori, age 8
WHAT DO MOST PEOPLE DO ON A DATE?
(1) Dates are for having fun, and people should use them to get to know each other. Even boys have something to say if you listen long enough.
- Lynnette, age 8 (isn’t she a treasure)
(2) On the first date, they just tell each other lies and that Usually gets them interested enough to go for a second date.
- Martin, age 10
WHAT WOULD YOU DO ON A FIRST DATE THAT WAS TURNING SOUR?
(1) I’d run home and play dead. The next day I would call all the newspapers and make sure they wrote about me in all the dead columns.
-Craig, age 9
WHEN IS IT OKAY TO KISS SOMEONE?
(1) When they’re rich.
- Pam, age 7
(2) The law says you have to be eighteen, so I wouldn’t want to mess with that.
- Curt, age 7
(3) The rule goes like this: If you kiss someone, then you should marry them and have kids with them. It’s the right thing to do.
- Howard, age 8
IS IT BETTER TO BE SINGLE OR MARRIED?
(1) I don’t know which is better, but I’ll tell you one thing. I’m never going to have sex with my wife. I don’t want to be all grossed out.
- Theodore, age 8
(2) It’s better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need someone to clean up after them.
- Anita, age 9 (bless you child)
HOW WOULD THE WORLD BE DIFFERENT IF PEOPLE DIDN’T GET MARRIED?
(1) There sure would be a lot of kids to explain, wouldn’t there?
- Kelvin, age 8
And the #1 Favorite is:
HOW WOULD YOU MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK?
(1) Tell your wife that she looks pretty, even if she looks like a truck.
- Ricky, age 10
What you need to know to be a real adult.
When you’re 25-ish, you’re old enough to know what kind of music you love, regardless of what your last boyfriend or roommate always used to play. You know how to walk in heels, how to tie a necktie, how to give a good toast at a wedding and how to make something for dinner. You don’t have to think much about skin care, home ownership or your retirement plan. Your life can look a lot of different ways when you’re 25: single, dating, engaged, married. You are working in dream jobs, pay-the-bills jobs and downright horrible jobs. You are young enough to believe that anything is possible, and you are old enough to make that belief a reality.
- You have time to find a job you love.
- Get out of debt and stay out of debt.
- Don’t rush dating and marriage.
- Give your best to friends and family.
- Get some counseling.
- Seek out a mentor.
- Be a part of a church.
- Find a rhythm for spiritual disciplines.
- Volunteer.
- Feed yourself and the people you love.
- Don’t get stuck.
- 1477 - Archduke Maximilian gives 1st diamond engagement ring
- Before diamonds, a simple ring with a message or poem inside was given. This was known as a Posy Ring.
- In the 1700’s, the heart shaped ring was the ring of choice.
- Ruby rings and claddagh rings were a popular choice throughout time before diamonds became the norm.
- A sewing thimble was given in place of a ring until the second part of the 19th century.
- The 1930’s brought about the diamond engagement ring permanently.
- The fourth finger on the left hand is said to have a vein, vena amorais, which leads directly to the heart.
- During World War II - DaBeers began marketing the two month’s salary myth.
- $2,600-$4,000 is the typical price men spend on an Engagement Ring.
- 80% of women receive a diamond engagement ring.
- Four C’s: color (grading system for each color), clarity (few or no blemishes), carat (size), cut (bevels, finish, and polish of the stone)
Seeing red. Feeling blue. Green with envy. There’s no denying that colors are inextricably linked with mood. Slip on a tailored LBD and you instantly feel chic and sexy or pop open a sunny yellow umbrella on a gloomy day and some of that sunniness will undoubtedly rub off on you.
There are several reasons why colors are able to influence how we feel. “We react on multiple levels of association with colors-there are social or culture levels as well as personal relationships with particular colors,” explains Leslie Harrington, executive director of The Color Association of The United States, which forecasts color trends. “You also have an innate reaction to color. For example, when you look at red, it does increase your heart rate. It is a stimulating color. This goes back to caveman days of fire and danger and alarm.”
You also have learned certain associations with color, such as red making your heart race since it’s linked with fire trucks and ambulances (in other words, alarm) or yellow having positive association simply because it was the color of your beloved grandmother’s kitchen. “As you get older, you become much more conscious of those learned reactions than the innate ones,” adds Harrington.
Jeannie Mai, who hosts “How Do I Look?” on the Style Network and who recently paired up with Yoplait Light to encourage women to make simple swaps (from giving your clothes a boost of color to swapping out unhealthy eating habits), is a firm believer in the ability of clothes to boost your mood. She calls it “wearapy.” “Therapists treat people with mood disorders,” she says. “I use clothing and texture to enhance people’s moods and their lives. On a bleak day it would be so easy to throw on a pair of jeans and a slouchy sweater, but I throw on something from spring-a green mini skirt, fun fringe booties and a sweater with evening jewelry. That makes an impression on everyone around me, but it also makes me feel cute. And when you feel cute, you feel better. You can channel the different moods you want with different colors.”
Feel like changing your frame of mind for the better? Play around with these colors when picking out your clothes, makeup and accessories:
When your nose is stuffy, and you can’t stop coughing, the best Rx may be… in your kitchen. “Certain foods are high in nutrients that boost your health,” explains Kathy McManus, RD, director of the department of nutrition at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston. Here, five foods scientifically proven to help kick those cold and flu bugs.
Garlic
Allicin, one of the active components in freshly crushed garlic, can zap viruses by blocking the enzymes that lead to infection. Use it in a Caesar salad, pesto sauce, or guacamole.
Whole Grains
They’re loaded with zinc, which is vital for maintaining a healthy immune system. Try whole-grain spaghetti with tomato sauce or brown rice with veggies.
Bananas
They contain vitamin B6, which helps your body fight infection. Eat your bananas sliced over whole-grain cereal and double your germ-busting power.
Cayenne Pepper
The active ingredient in the spice, capsaicin, beats congestion by thinning the mucus in your nasal passages so you can breathe freely again. Sprinkle some in soup or on a bean burrito.
Sweet Potatoes
They’re one of the best sources of beta-carotene (a form of vitamin A), which your body needs to make enough white blood cells to fight off infection. Eat them mashed or baked.
My husband, Rael, and I have just celebrated our 18th wedding anniversary. I’m pretty sentimental about a lot of things, but anniversaries aren’t one of them. Ours are usually simple occasions: maybe a card and a nice dinner out and a few jokes about buying matching walkers.
Somehow, this year felt different.
This year, I felt like we had scaled something…like we had survived something…like we had accomplished something. This year wasn’t just another 365 days gone by and “isn’t that nice,” it was a year to be grateful. A year to be proud.
This was the year my son regained his confidence and his smile. The year we lived the grand experiment of home schooling. The year my daughter grew strong. The year we “cleaned house” in many more ways than one.
So, in honor of our 18th year, I humbly offer five things I’ve learned so far about marriage.
1. A strong marriage is built of tiny actions.
“It’s the little things.” Such a cliche! Such bad sentence construction! And such truth.
Each time you discuss instead of demand, you strengthen your marriage. Same goes for speaking with respect instead of sarcasm, and listening instead of dismissing, and engaging instead of eye-rolling.
Each action is like a brick. You choose whether to use it to build a foundation or a wall.
My life has become dedicated to helping others who are struggling with issues of the heart, so please pass this along to anyone who needs guidance. Take what I say with a grain of salt. I’m human— not perfect. But my heart is in the right place (and, hopefully, I can make a few people laugh).
With that said, here’s my list for hopeful romantics to “get `er done”:
1. We will not be desperate. You heard me. Live your life; enjoy your passions. Put the cell phone down, and stop texting. For the love of God… let the guy pursue you.
2. We’ll give “Mr. Nice Guy” a chance and stop dating the player. Please cease and desist from giving away your goods to a man you barely know.
3. We’ll teach Nice Guy a few of the player’s bedroom moves. Passion is fun, after all.
4. We will not shave our legs before a first date. We need a little insurance policy. You know what I’m talking about.
5. We will engage in PDA. When we’re not in church, all deals are off!
Relationship success is based on two individuals standing in coupledom free of outside influence. My listeners and readers are often challenged by meeting new people who have a “pack mentality” when it comes to relationships. If the new person does not fit in with the “pack” (parents, friends, coworkers, etc.) or abide by its rules, the outsider is often quickly dumped — meaning, potentially great relationships are not even given a chance to grow. Below are 10 ways to tell if he is his own guy:
1. He’s fine socializing on his own
A man who is able to be out on the town without anyone else is his own guy. If you find that every movie, dinner, getaway weekend, office party or sporting event is all about how many friends he can throw into the mix, be warned — he definitely needs relationship buffers so that he does not have to focus too much attention on you.
2. He exhibits healthy family separation
Definitely go for a guy who’s got a great relationship with his family, but make sure that he sees them realistically. One of the keys to being a fully formed adult is to be able to balance the love for your family of origin with your own views on how you plan on doing things better for your own family. Is he open about some of his family’s flaws? Is he able to differentiate between the ways his family does things and the way he chooses to do them? Watch his conversations and interactions with his family for clues.
3. He’s willing to sample unfamiliar social settings
This one is big! Is he open to trying things with you that may not necessarily be “his” thing? We all step into relationships with our basic profile of what we think is fun or interesting set in our minds. Test the athlete a bit by suggesting a museum visit or wine-tasting date; offer the finance guy the chance to go to a great indie concert; invite the artist to accompany you to a major company event. If he is willing to give anything a try for you, then clearly he is a guy who goes against the grain and is up for taking chances, no matter what others may think.
Teeth falling out? Forgot where you left your baby? No, you’re not going crazy. We like to think of our dreams as unique expressions of our individual psyches and imaginations, but most people’s dreams are based on themes that are actually very common. No matter how weird, outrageous, or embarrassing you think your dreams are, the truth is that they’re more normal than you think. These seven dreams are among the most common, and understanding what causes them can even help you sort through your daytime emotions.
Have you ever waited an unbearably long time to text someone back that you were interested in? Have you ever made yourself unavailable just so you didn’t appear too eager? Have you ever had “plans” that involved you, your couch, and a glass of wine - just to seem busy and popular?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then you have contributed to that exciting dating game known as The Chase.
